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Living A Life in Alignment


by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC

We create our life and our love life through our beliefs, intentions, and the actions we take in the world.

Every one of us has an inner guidance system that drives us and guides our choice-making whether we are aware of it or not. Our system includes:

  • A “vision” of what we want our life to be
  • Values that are the structure of our life
  • A “life purpose” that is our reason for being
  • A love relationship is most fulfilling and satisfying when it is in alignment with our vision, values and life purpose.

When you think of your “vision,” think of your personal world of family and friends, your community, work and colleagues…everything in the world that touches you in some way every day and how you want that to be.

Consider that to value something is to esteem it to be of worth. Your values drive your choices and actions. Your values are who you are, what you do, and how you express yourself. When you live through your values, you make decisions and choices that honor those values without regard for your desires, thoughts or fears, and your life has meaning.

Each one of us has a unique purpose. We create meaningful work and a fulfilling life when we live on purpose. When our “life purpose” is clear it guides our choices and helps us know where we are headed.

When we live from our being we live a life in alignment with our vision, values and life purpose. When we live from our being we can genuinely love and be loved by another; to know a love that grows out of choice. Real love with our partner-in-life allows us to experience being loved by someone who chooses to love us, who sees in us something worth loving.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!